How can I reach orgasm with and without sex toys?
Just like the G-spot rubbing, your partner might get over the edge with this technique, but it might not be enough for her to squirt. To know if she’s fully aroused, check her expressions as well as her wetness. Lightly insert your middle finger on her vagina and check if she’s lubed enough.
Which is kind of silly if you think about it, because pleasure is all accomplished in the brain. Squirting is when fluid is released from the bladder during any point of sexual excitement, stimulation, or orgasm. The fluid has been explained as clear, and with a sweeter taste. There are ultrasound studies that show it definitely comes from the bladder. It makes a lot of sense anatomically speaking, because there is no other structure in that area of the female body that can 1) hold that much liquid and 2) shoot it out with that much force. There are also characteristics that make the fluid similar to urine, but seem like a much more diluted version.
Size and shape aren’t just about what fits—they’re about what feels right. Smaller toys offer precise stimulation, while larger toys provide fuller sensations. Whether it’s her first toy or she’s a seasoned lover of toys, choose based on what she enjoys. I’ve tried these tips myself and even taught them live at retreats or online in our courses on squirting.
While in this position, the man’s penis is tilted slightly upwards, which hits the G-spot on the upper vaginal wall just right. Next, it’s important to get into a sexual position that helps stimulate her G-spot with ease. The best way to apply pressure to her G-spot is by using a finger, penis, or sex toy. Although there is no agreement among sexual health professionals as to what squirt is made of, a research has found that the fluid is ‘chemically different from urine’. The good thing about this position is it also allows the man to focus on stimulating the woman’s other erogenous zones which will help her squirt.
You can continue more minor stimulation, like rubbing the vulva and indirectly around the clitoris. While you don’t need to orgasm to squirt, you do need to be aroused. But what squirting cannot happen without is adequate hydration. Female pleasure and even moreso, squirting, are not common topics of research. Learn more about the health benefits of sexual intercourse here.
Well done girl, you are on your way to a squirting orgasm. If you didn’t find it yet how to squirt, don’t lose hope, there is plenty more to do. Not everyone will find satisfaction through G-spot stimulation, and that’s fine too. Remember that masturbation is a natural and healthy way to feel good in your body. By taking time to explore your preferences, you can also use that information to instruct a partner on what you enjoy most during sex.
And there is also a lot of variations you can try here, like the reclined Doggystyle position. Continue ramping it up, except make a slight change. Put her knees to the belly and then place your hand on her A-spot belly. Pay attention to her responses, adjusting your movements accordingly. You can also gently explore the vaginal entrance using soft, circular motions.
This is going to strain your hand a lot so it’s good if you build up your hand. You have to use your dominant hand, so if your right handed, use your right hand, if you’re left handed use your left hand. Even my right hand will start to cramp because you need to do this consistently and with a lot of pressure and you can’t let up. So as she is coming closer and closer to orgasm, you’ve got to really put a lot of pressure into it like this.
Unlike the vagina, the anal canal does not self-lubricate, so use plenty of water or silone-based lube. If you choose to lubricate with saliva, it’s important to know the risks. Given that the mouth is full of bacteria, saliva as a lubricant presents more risk of infection and contracting STIs (i.e., oral herpes, gonorrhea). It also dries quickly and lacks a smooth consistency, so it’s best to stick with store-bought lubricant to avoid friction.